Quarter Life Crises: How to Cope with It

Quarter-life crises, probably sound familiar to our readers. Definitely not only happening in these recent years but also a long time ago before the Internet boomed in Indonesia, but not so long time ago when marriage and childbearing are the only options available for the 25s. Let us define again the term “Quarter-Life Crises” to be on the same page on the topic that has been viral among modern society and this digital era.

A quarter-life crisis (Emerging Adulthood Stage) is an early transition that starts off at the age of 25. A transition from “Playing Time” to “Fulfilling Social Norm” is the main concern and anxiety within this crisis spectrum. Risk-taking responsibility now becomes bigger and more fundamental to this age. Hence, the term “Social” and “Expectation” become a powerful-big headline in every 25 years old. And the way they address it sometimes gets crumbled along the way, this is what triggers the mental crisis or what psychologists believe as cognitive disruption.

Life is a long process of learning, developing, and maintaining. From the age of 0-4 and to the age of 80 we always experience a difference within each stage of life. Often times, every individual who is on the quarter-life crisis can no longer bear their wandering midnight brain, saying “they don’t live up to their family expectation”, “my life shouldn’t be like this if I could..” and even in this emerging Start-Up era, the 25s sometimes blame themselves to be not brave enough to build even a small start-up. It may sound silly as you read through this article, but this is the current mental disruption that the 25s have

This wandering midnight brain is somewhat dangerous. A recent online article by Madlen Davies an award-winning investigation Journalist on MailOnline UK defines the tapping-technology worsen the ability of the brain to relax, to sleep and not giving a break of the peaceful mind. Tapping technology is defined as the habit of people constantly checking on their phones. People now, from the age of 13 to 65 are on the internet and social media and have a full dependency on it. The most active users on social media are aged 16-35, in which the 25s are falling to the active spectrum.

How to cope with it? We have 2 inevitable variables, here. Firstly, the mental development of the 25s that experience a tremendous so-called: “ Social “and “Expectation” pressured to be fulfilled. Secondly, we have this unchangeable set of environments jammed with the gadget, social media, and unparalleled network and connection. The reason I use the term “unchangeable” is that sometimes we have to accept what is being occurred in this present moment, like technology and social media per se, it is happening now. It would be the most insensitive idea if I say, “Cut down your social media and internet connectivity. Stop comparing reality and Social Expectation.” One way or another we need them to improves lives.

But what if I say, “Your brain is the most powerful instrument in your body. It dictates hormones, limb movements and even your mental desire to make your independent and distinctive decision in your life. Tell your brain that a Quarter-life crisis is a normal process that the 25s should go through. It’s not the bad nor abnormal situation, yet it happens just like part of the human mental developmental process to enrich one’s world view to make sense of this wonderful life we live in.”

A quarter-life crisis is a normal mental disruption the 25s might experience. Knowing that you are not alone facing this mental crisis is important. This is normal as the 25s are moving higher from the “Playing Time” to “Fulfilling Social Norm” or expectation. Realizing that expectation is a subjective value from time to time and culture, and knowing what things are acceptable is crucial. Stop making a worst-case scenario plot in your mature 25 years old brain. But also, don’t stop the brain to wander at midnight before you fall asleep—yet, it is the most wanted thing that you have been waiting right before you go to sleep. It’s not only you who have it, but everyone in their 25.

Stay positive.

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